I find it hard to believe that Lent is almost over. Here we are forty-three days in and it seems like yesterday. Tomorrow it comes to a close with the beginning of Triduum. In a couple of days it will be Easter. As Lent began the tight grip of winter was upon us. It seemed like this winter would not end. The snow and ice and cold stayed much longer than usual this year. Perhaps it is age, perhaps it is climate change but winter is harder to handle now than just a few years ago. Severe is the word that comes to mind. Yet with a little more than five weeks going by, Spring has finally come upon us even though winter tried to raise its head one last time earlier today, the Sun and warmth had erased any sign of its stubbornness to tarry longer.
This transfer from winter to spring is a fair description of the journey I have been on with my beloved. This year we decided to do something positive for us, to take a step to make our communication move to a more intimate level. Since one of the focus points for Lent is prayer, we decided we would focus on our prayer life as a couple and to pray together each evening. We chose to pray Evening Prayer each day which involved the praying of a psalm, intercessions and meditating on a passage of scripture. The twist was how the passage related or spoke to us about our relationship. How did we feel about our answer. We did this as our 10+10.
This was a real challenge for us. We found this type of praying difficult for we needed some real time together which meant we did this later than usual. Frequently it took as long as forty minutes. It is hard to stay focused after nine. Imagine a married couple praying together each day. It has been an eye opener for us. For most of our married life prayer has been very simple, grace before meals, rosaries, praying at mass or for special intentions. This was most different. Inviting God to speak to us through his word about our marriage and spend some time in meditation and writing about it and then to share our reactions. My eyes have been opened.
Not every evening was a mountaintop experience, sometimes I just could not get what the passage meant, let alone how it spoke to me about my marriage. My feelings at these times were confused and disappointed in my lack if insight. Other times I was humbled at God’s wisdom and love for us: most of the time I could see we were being challenged to be the best couple we could be.
Communicating this way in prayer has brought us even closer if that is possible. Patience has a new meaning. Do I dare say life is more peaceful? I believe we have found serenity. Each night our prayer started with “God come to my assistance, Lord make haste to help me.” This is like taking the first of the twelve steps. Together we admit to each other our powerlessness and our need for our higher power which through our faith we acknowledge as God to be a part of our life. Serenity is a good place to be and prayer is the path. This process is going to stay, maybe not each night but certainly let’s say on one week night. We are in too good a place not to.
Dialogue Question: What is my reaction to praying as a couple? How do I feel about my answer? Enjoy!Continue Reading...